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Does 'Marital Status' Make Work Unfocused?
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Vregina
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"They said I couldn't work there because I'm married."
"They say that if I'm single, I can work overtime all the time."
Those are a few remarks from workers that I have heard from a friend.
It turns out that there are indeed many forms of discrimination in the workplace. One of them is marital status. Some companies always open opportunities for fresh graduates claiming enthusiasm and passion to work are still high. But who would have thought, secretly this discriminates against workers.
Since when did marital status affect work performance? Apparently ‘marital status’ can make people lose focus at work 😔
This marital status discrimination is also depicted in a South Korean film titled Kim Ji-Young, Born 1982 (2019), which is an adaptation of the novel "82nyeonsaeng Kimjiyoung". This film tells the story of Kim Ji-Young, a woman who initially worked in a public relations agency, then got married and became pregnant.
After this new life, Kim Ji-Young was forced to quit her job and took on the role of a full-time housewife. Her status and daily activities caused Kim Ji-Young to experience many things, leading to a loss of her identity.
In Neil Y. Pacamalan's thesis titled Sex Matters: A Comparative Analysis of Work Discrimination in Indonesia and the Philippines, he states that employers prefer to hire single women over those who are married. According to a study by Wolf, single women are relatively cheaper to maintain than those who are married.
It also mentions real examples of discrimination occurring in the advertising sector. One company is looking for a secretary to the President Director, with requirements of being under 25 years old, height of 1.60 m, and unmarried. Hmm, it turns out that marital status can indeed be a curse for applicants.
Also read: Discrimination in Job Ads
In the United States, even though there is a law that grants maternity leave to women for 3 months, the government acknowledges that pregnant women are often fired or replaced by others. So, some companies require women to sign a statement that they will not get pregnant during their employment contract. The International Labour Organization (ILO) once released a report before International Women's Day, stating that Indonesia has recorded the largest increase in unemployed women in Southeast Asia over a decade since the 1997 financial crisis.
When Marital Status Affects Work
This marital status refers to us who are single, married, divorced, widowed, separated, or living together with a partner without ties. It turns out that all of this can be a basis for companies to assess our readiness and work performance, how sad.
An example that occurs is:
There is a dance studio that offers classes only for those who are still single.
A manager who will not promote a woman who has just married because they think this woman will focus on her family rather than her career.
The company gives bonuses to employees who are married but does not do so for single employees.
A company offers married employees to work in remote locations with guaranteed allowances and family visitation leave.
Even paying male workers more than female workers, assuming that males are the heads of families.
According to research from Victorian Equal Opportunity and Human Rights Commission Annual Report 2018-2019, 57.7% of complaint reports are about discrimination based on marital status in employment.
So That Marital Status Does Not Interfere with Work
During the interview, interviewers should also not ask or request information regarding the applicant's marital status. Likewise, conveying information about status implicitly is not advised since it could lead interviewers to open further questions about marital status. The correct way to avoid questions, intentionally or unintentionally, is for companies to create an interview structure for recruiters or managers.
That is one form of discrimination that is actually rarely realized, as this status can change at any time. I hope we all become more sensitive to forms of discrimination that are starting to be considered normal.
By: Vregina
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Source:
https://www.humanrights.vic.gov.au/for-individuals/marital-status/
https://smallbusiness.chron.com/labor-laws-marital-status-discrimination-61346.htm
http://www.etd.ceu.hu/2008/pacamalan_neil.pdf
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Quid Pro Quo: When Career Opportunities Are Used as a Tool to Manipulate Sexual Consent
Have you ever encountered a story about a worker who had to offer sexual favors to get a promotion, keep their job, or gain career opportunities?
Stories like this may sound familiar. We can find them in various films and series, such as Bombshell, The Assistant, to Sleep Call. However, this situation is not merely a conflict in fictional stories. Similar practices still occur in the professional world and have a specific term: quid pro quo.
What Is Quid Pro Quo in the Context of Workplace Sexual Harassment?
Literally, quid pro quo means "this for that". In the context of workplace sexual harassment, this term refers to a situation where an employer, manager, supervisor, or coworker influences or attempts to influence a person's career decisions or working conditions in exchange for sexual acts or benefits.
Simply put, someone uses their position or influence to pressure another person into providing sexual favors under the lure of employment opportunities.

Dina, a Character in the Movie Sleep Call Who Became a Victim of Quid Pro Quo
Quid pro quo practices have three main characteristics:
Power imbalance. The perpetrator holds a higher position, seniority, or greater influence over the victim.
Career-related incentives. Promotion opportunities, employment, performance reviews, or other professional benefits are used as bargaining chips.
Accompanied by threats. Refusal may be followed by threats of lost opportunities, changes in working conditions, or other professional consequences.
Data from the 2022 Violence and Harassment in the Indonesian Workplace Survey by ILO Indonesia and the Never Okay Project shows that 50.48% of workers have experienced workplace sexual harassment and violence. In addition, 54.81% of perpetrators were supervisors, managers, or more senior colleagues. Meanwhile, 42.55% of victims chose to remain silent and did not know what to do.
These figures demonstrate that power imbalance is not an issue that can be ignored when discussing workplace safety.
Why Does Quid Pro Quo Continue to Occur?
One of the strongest factors triggering sexual harassment in the context of quid pro quo is organizational culture and systems.
There are two conditions that make this practice increasingly difficult to stop.
1. The perception that reporting will bring no change
When workers feel that reporting harassment will only be futile or even jeopardize their careers, a fear of retaliation arises.
Consequently, victims choose to stay silent because they feel they lack a safe space to seek justice.
2. The lack of consequences for perpetrators
When management fails to impose meaningful sanctions on perpetrators—especially if they hold high positions, are high performers, or are deemed financially vital to the company—the organization indirectly creates a safe haven for perpetrators.
This condition is known as institutional betrayal, where the institution that should protect its workers instead fails to provide the necessary protection.
The Impact of Quid Pro Quo on Victims' Careers
The impact of sexual harassment does not end with the experience endured by the victim. This practice can also affect their career sustainability and professional life.
Based on the 2022 Violence and Harassment in the Indonesian Workplace Survey:
47% of victims wanted to resign.
41.35% avoided meetings, schedules, or certain office areas.
22.96% experienced a decline in work performance and evaluations.
9.74% never wanted to work again.
This means that sexual harassment is not just an issue of individual behavior. This practice also impacts opportunities, productivity, and the victim's career sustainability.
How Can Organizations Prevent Quid Pro Quo?
In the fifth episode of the Not A Fiction Podcast, Wulansari, S.H., M.H., Legal Practitioner and Women's Rights Activist, recommended four essential steps for organizations and companies to prevent sexual harassment and violence:
Affirming commitment through policy. The organization's stance must be reflected in regulations, codes of conduct, and integrity pacts.
Providing clear grievance mechanisms. Reporting channels must be easily accessible and known to all workers.
Creating a safe and positive work environment. Every worker needs to have a workspace free from sexual harassment and violence.
Taking reports seriously. Organizations must respond to every report seriously while maintaining the confidentiality of the reporter.
Ultimately, creating a work ecosystem free from sexual harassment and violence is indeed no easy task. However, change is not impossible.
A safe work culture cannot be built solely through slogans, campaigns, or mere statements of support. It requires tangible policies, accessible protection mechanisms, and the organization's courage to hold perpetrators accountable regardless of their position or contribution.
Because career opportunities are not a tool to trade for sexual consent. And the workplace should be a space to thrive, not a space that forces someone to sacrifice their sense of safety just to maintain their career.
Let us start building a work system that stands with victims.
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Being Competent vs Being Liked. Why are female leaders always forced to choose?
"She's too emotional."
"She's too nice to lead."
Comments like these might sound simple. However, behind them lies a double standard that still affects how we view leadership in the workplace. In various organizations, female leaders are still faced with conflicting expectations. When women are firm and assertive, they risk being labeled bossy or emotional. But when women show empathy and warmth, their competence is questioned instead.
In Enemies with Benefits, the character Wine, who is newly appointed as a Supervisor, is immediately labeled "just a pretty face" due to her friendliness at work. To gain respect from her team, Wine feels she must change her demeanor and suppress her personality to appear more "worthy" of being a leader.
Wine's experience reflects a phenomenon known as the likability-competence trap.
A bias that often forces women to choose between being respected for their competence or liked for their personality. This double standard means that a female leader's competence is judged not only by her work results, but also by the way she speaks, expresses emotions, and builds relationships.
“women who lead are disliked, and women who are liked don’t lead.”
This kind of bias rarely presents itself in the form of overt discrimination. Instead, it arises through everyday comments, feedback, performance reviews, and promotion processes that appear objective, yet are still influenced by unconscious gender stereotypes (unconscious bias).
Consequently, a woman's leadership is often judged not just by things that objectively support work success, such as the quality of decisions, work results, or the impact created. Instead, assessments are also influenced by the extent to which a female leader is considered "friendly" enough, "assertive," "pleasant," or aligned with gender expectations that still linger in the workplace.
For organizations, the impact is not only felt by individuals. Bias in evaluating leadership can limit the diversity of leadership styles, hinder creativity and human resource development, and make decision-making processes less fair.

Image: A scene of Wine crying upon hearing gossip from her coworkers about her.
Building an inclusive workplace is not just about opening up more opportunities for women or vulnerable groups to lead. What is equally important is ensuring that every process of evaluation, promotion, and feedback is conducted with fair standards. Inclusive leadership begins when competence becomes the basis of evaluation, not stereotypes about how a leader "should" behave.
Focus on competence.
Focus on work results, objective KPIs, leadership quality, and impact, rather than whether someone seems “friendly enough” or “assertive enough” in their interactions.
Distinguish leadership style from leadership ability.
Not all leaders have to show the same style to be effective. Diverse leadership styles can support the growth of creativity in the work culture and in decision-making. Support women to lead authentically.
Review the language in performance reviews.
Avoid feedback that focuses on someone's personality or expression, such as being "too emotional", "lacking warmth", or "lacking authority". Provide specific, work-behavior-based, and actionable feedback.
Be aware of bias before making decisions.
Reflect on whether evaluations, promotions, or feedback are truly based on performance, unaffected by unconscious gender stereotypes (unconscious bias).
Because in the end, competence has no gender.
An equal workplace is a place where everyone can lead authentically, without the need to suppress themselves to gain respect. Have we truly evaluated and appreciated leaders based on their competence, integrity, and the impact they create?
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Creating Proactive Mechanisms for Handling Sexual Harassment: Learning from Filing for A Love
“At our office, we are safe; after all, there has never been any report received so far.”
The above statement cannot be used as a foundation to validate the absence of handling mechanisms for sexual harassment and violence in a company or institution.
For many corporate managements, the absence of reports is often used as an indicator that their work environment is completely clean and safe. However, the reality is not that simple. The absence of reports does not mean there are no cases at all. Regulatory documents must still be possessed and actively implemented, even if there has never been a report of violations.
The Danger of Not Having Clear Mechanisms
Based on data released by the Never Okay Project in 2022, many workplaces still do not have clear mechanisms to handle cases of sexual violence and harassment.
As many as 34.53% of respondents mentioned that their workplaces do not have mechanisms against sexual violence and harassment. Meanwhile, another 23.53% of respondents did not even know whether their office already has such handling mechanisms or not.
This is dangerous. Ignorance and the absence of clear mechanisms will make many victims and witnesses choose to remain silent. Because they do not know where to report and receive handling.
Learning from the Haemu Audit Team
The K-drama Filing for Love, in episode 4, tells the story of Lim Ha-Kyong (a junior engineer) who experienced sexual harassment and intimidation by James (the director). The victim felt pressured and chose not to report her situation when asked by Jo In-A (the Leader of the Haemu Audit Team).
Even though the victim claimed "nothing happened," In-A still conducted an investigation according to the applicable protocols and policies. The process was carried out without compromising the victim's position.
In-A's brave decision enabled the existing policies to be executed effectively. Evidence was successfully gathered, the perpetrator was punished, and the victim was slowly able to recover and return to work.
This story aims to show that active intervention from the company is proven to be able to save victims while maintaining organizational integrity.
Why a Proactive Mechanism is Important
Providing a responsive protection system is not just a form of care for staff, but a strategic investment for business continuity. The benefits for the company are not small
Creating psychological safety. This means employees can work peacefully without being overwhelmed by anxiety about their safety.
Increasing employee and team productivity. A healthy work environment, free from intimidation, of course, has a positive impact on work performance.
Building a healthy and sustainable work culture. This is possible due to deeply rooted values of professionalism and mutual respect within the company ecosystem.
Maintaining and enhancing business reputation. Doing business in the digital era makes companies that are committed to humanitarian issues highly attractive (employer branding) in the eyes of job applicants and investors.
Mitigating management crisis and public relations (PR) risks. Having internal handling SOPs prevents cases from escalating into public scandals, while also fostering public trust in the company's handling.
Two-Way Synergy to Create a Proactive and Effective Mechanism
A mechanism, no matter how good, cannot run effectively if its implementers are confused and intimidated.
Adapting the global guidelines from the International Labour Organization (ILO), here are the things companies can do to create proactive and effective mechanisms against sexual violence and harassment.
From the policy perspective:
Strictly defining what constitutes clear sexual harassment and violence in the workplace.
Declaring a zero-tolerance stance against all forms of sexual violence and harassment.Guaranteeing a clear, confidential, and safe reporting mechanism for reporters.
Having investigation SOPs that side with the victim's rights (a victim-centered approach).
Requiring periodic risk assessments to mitigate potential violations.
From the HR readiness perspective:
Holding mandatory training related to anti-harassment policies for all levels of employees.
Forming a special team for handling cases and providing them with specialized training (as demonstrated by Jo In-A and her Audit Team).
Providing specialized training for managers, supervisors, and team leaders to be sensitive in detecting issues.
Guaranteeing access to dedicated, easy-to-use channels for reporting.
Thorough, transparent, and justice-oriented handling of harassment cases has been proven to rebuild employees' trust in the company's credibility.
The first step to breaking the chain of workplace sexual violence begins when management dares to open its eyes, draft strict regulations, and train its HR to be proactive protective guards.
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