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Understanding Privilege

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Gabriella Regina K.

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The origin of the term privilege can be traced back to the 1930s, when white people in Europe and America felt superior to black people 1. At that time, privilege was not only about who had money but illustrated a person's state of life. Poor white people felt they were superior to poor black people because at least they could participate in elections and go to school and parks.

We can understand that privilege is a set of benefits that is received and granted to people who belong to certain social groups. These "special people" can use their position to benefit others like them (re: special). For example, in countries with the worst conditions for women, such as Afghanistan, Syria, and India, women often lack institutional power. 

Women still face inadequate opportunities for social participation, especially in advocating for political rights and power in government and various institutions 2. This historical trend continues today, although more women are being politically elected to leadership positions, their voices are still unheard 3. Meanwhile, in societies that glorify white supremacy, people of color are often slaves and experience poor treatment.

Over time, with the rise of awareness due to the waves of feminism, issues of gender, privilege, and inequality have become common discourse in society for years.


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The women's liberation movement in the 1960s and 1970s focused on several "privileges" enjoyed by men. This massive wave also highlighted how the exercise of power by men affects women's lives. 

If we look closely at the social status of women and men, it is evident that men hold privileges over women in many aspects of life. For instance, women are more likely to become victims of domestic violence, workplace harassment, and suffer wage discrimination as major obstacles to their quality of life compared to men.

In Indonesian culture, many privileges and powers held by men over women are forms of power/legitimacy that are acquired at no cost. Equally disheartening, society often uses a male perspective as the primary focus, ultimately causing women to be reluctant to step forward and present themselves. It must be acknowledged that privilege indeed has a significant role in individuals' success.

By the early 21st century, the goals of the second wave of feminism have largely been achieved. Currently, over 70% of women in America have jobs and are free to be in public places or participate in various community activities 4. The number of women graduating from college is also higher than that of men. In Indonesia, the Ministry of Research, Technology and Higher Education reported in 2018 that the number of active female students was 3,077,254, about 440,000 more than the number of male students, which was 2,636,495 5. However, discrimination and violence as forms of privilege still occur. 

It was reported that 75% of women in Indonesia have experienced physical and sexual violence. The government's first national survey on violence against women showed that 33% of women aged 15 to 64 claimed to have experienced harassment 6. Indonesia ranks 88th out of 144 countries in the World Economic Forum's Gender Gap Index 2016 after scoring poorly in economic participation, political empowerment, and education. Although the economy has improved over the past decade, critics say that gaps remain, and women often become its victims 7.


Recognizing privilege is very similar to sex education in Indonesia: we are never formally taught about it but continually bear the responsibility to "educate ourselves." So, what can we do?

If we want to "liberate ourselves," we must not place the entire responsibility for changing the culture that perpetuates discrimination solely on marginalized groups. Activists and organizations focusing on these issues must be able to channel their passions, ideas, and strategies into tangible actions for change. 

Each of us has the responsibility to inform those around us about how privilege works in the real world. Don't be afraid to start posting on social media, writing blogs, discussing, or even creating spaces for dialogue and critiquing examples of wrongdoing based on privilege. Is it still beneficial to one party and detrimental to another?

Privilege will never disappear until the systems in our society strive to eliminate discrimination. In everyday life, strive to question privilege so that one day we all enjoy equal benefits. Lastly, for those who routinely benefit from privilege, the challenge is to not quickly deny its existence; instead, use your everyday privilege to help others.

 

Written by Gabriella Regina K.


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  • Career-related incentives. Promotion opportunities, employment, performance reviews, or other professional benefits are used as bargaining chips.

  • Accompanied by threats. Refusal may be followed by threats of lost opportunities, changes in working conditions, or other professional consequences.

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Why Does Quid Pro Quo Continue to Occur?

One of the strongest factors triggering sexual harassment in the context of quid pro quo is organizational culture and systems.

There are two conditions that make this practice increasingly difficult to stop.

1. The perception that reporting will bring no change

When workers feel that reporting harassment will only be futile or even jeopardize their careers, a fear of retaliation arises.

Consequently, victims choose to stay silent because they feel they lack a safe space to seek justice.

2. The lack of consequences for perpetrators

When management fails to impose meaningful sanctions on perpetrators—especially if they hold high positions, are high performers, or are deemed financially vital to the company—the organization indirectly creates a safe haven for perpetrators.

This condition is known as institutional betrayal, where the institution that should protect its workers instead fails to provide the necessary protection.

The Impact of Quid Pro Quo on Victims' Careers

The impact of sexual harassment does not end with the experience endured by the victim. This practice can also affect their career sustainability and professional life.

Based on the 2022 Violence and Harassment in the Indonesian Workplace Survey:

  • 47% of victims wanted to resign.

  • 41.35% avoided meetings, schedules, or certain office areas.

  • 22.96% experienced a decline in work performance and evaluations.

  • 9.74% never wanted to work again.

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  • Providing clear grievance mechanisms. Reporting channels must be easily accessible and known to all workers.

  • Creating a safe and positive work environment. Every worker needs to have a workspace free from sexual harassment and violence.

  • Taking reports seriously. Organizations must respond to every report seriously while maintaining the confidentiality of the reporter.

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A safe work culture cannot be built solely through slogans, campaigns, or mere statements of support. It requires tangible policies, accessible protection mechanisms, and the organization's courage to hold perpetrators accountable regardless of their position or contribution.

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“At our office, we are safe; after all, there has never been any report received so far.” 

The above statement cannot be used as a foundation to validate the absence of handling mechanisms for sexual harassment and violence in a company or institution.

For many corporate managements, the absence of reports is often used as an indicator that their work environment is completely clean and safe. However, the reality is not that simple. The absence of reports does not mean there are no cases at all. Regulatory documents must still be possessed and actively implemented, even if there has never been a report of violations.

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